Pan Cup and Guest Privilege

Have you seen or heard that trend on TikTok where people have been responding to this question:

“What unserious generational curse are you breaking?”

Then they go on to list the various activities or habits they’ll have no issue with their child forming, like using the fine china in the house whenever they want or actually disposing of disposable plates lol.

Here’s one of my favorite examples that actually relates to my grandmother’s point of view to some extent.

It’s funny.

I see the same pattern of this extra layer of meaningless superiority that comes with the title of being an elder relative.

It’s one that only seems to do more harm than good.

An extra layer of forced respect that seems to be fueled by belittling those they love. Maybe in an attempt to compensate for what? Insecurities? A sense of failure?

I don’t know, I’m not a therapist.

And I’m not judging.

Actually…I am. Because I’ve also been the receiving end of these behaviours.

But I judge from a place more of hopeful accountability than disgust. I’m examining.

Reflecting.

This is what I want this space to be - one where we laugh and reminisce, but also look deeply into the cultural conditioning that made us exactly the people we are today.

And sometimes certain aspects of that conditioning cut so deep that we refuse to adopt those traits and inflict them on the ones that come after us, which is exactly what my grandmother was explaining from her point of view.

So, let me ask you:

Out of the ones that unfortunately trickled into the teachings of your upbringing, what unserious generational curse are you breaking?

Here’s one of mine:
Not putting “what people goh say” over the importance of addressing a problem.

I definitely have more stories to share on that one.

Thank you for reading (and listening).

Rochella <3